Failure is defined as a “lack of success,” but a lot of us tend to turn a single failure into the notion that WE are failures. There’s a clear distinction here that I want you all to know: experiencing a failure DOES NOT make YOU a failure.
That’s why it is ESSENTIAL to learn how to bounce back from a perceived failure to turn it into an experience that made you better.
PERCEIVED FAILURES VS REAL FAILURES
Whenever failure is involved, it’s difficult not to get our emotions involved. We can easily create a mountain out of a molehill and use failures as a reflection on ourselves.
That’s why I want to introduce you to a new term: perceived failures. Perceived failures are “False alarms that feel like failure but have no serious or lasting consequences on our lives.” When we mix up real failure, perceived failures, and being a failure, it’s a recipe for setbacks. Of course, setbacks are nothing that you can’t get past but the feelings that stem from this certainly can.
Have you ever made a mistake and then developed anxiety about:
The thing is that everyone interprets failures differently. We each react uniquely, but working with my clients has shown me that there are common themes linked to our feelings of failure.
So, I’ve developed a 3-step system that will help you brush off this feeling swiftly and keep going through your goals.
THREE STEPS TO MANAGE THE FEELINGS OF FAILURE: